Talking With Your Partner

The Social Impacts of Erectile Dysfunction

Sex is a basic human need and integral part of our physical and psychological well-being.  When affected by Erectile Dysfunction, men often experience feelings of inadequacy, frustration, and low self-esteem, and these can ultimately lead to depression or aggressiveness.

How to Talk with Your Partner About Erectile DysfunctionIn intimate relationships, men often withdraw emotionally and physically because of the fear of not being able to perform in the bedroom.  Partners can misinterpret this behavior and assume that they are no longer sexually desirable, which affects their self esteem and starts a downward spiral of friction and lack of communication in the relationship.  Studies have estimated that ED may play a role in as many as 20% of failed marriages.

Erectile Dysfunction not only affects intimate relationships, but also those with friends and co-workers.  When a man loses his self-confidence he may not find the same pleasure in activities that he used to enjoy.  In the workplace, a lack of self esteem or motivation can significantly change a man’s attitude and affect his productivity, leading to difficulties with his superiors.

Dealing With Erectile Dysfunction Together

While many men attempt to hide their conditions from their partner, studies have shown that couples who communicate openly and honestly have the best chance of dealing with the issue effectively.  Men often find that their partners are just as interested in sexual intimacy and are willing to lend their support. This can make it easier for couples to do something about the problem, together.

Tips for Talking With Your Partner

  • Be open about your feelings and let your partner know how you are affected.
  • Be careful not assign blame in one direction; instead, discuss what you and your partner want and need, and think about how to achieve these goals.
  • Explore alternative sexual techniques to obtain sexual satisfaction in the interim while seeking treatment
  • Be sure to have an open discussion about obtaining professional medical help and advice.  Stress the health and financial priorities of regaining a healthy sex life.

Taking the Appropriate Action

Intimacy is important in every relationship, and communicating about sexual difficulty may be the first step towards resolving it. In fact, your partner may be waiting for you bring up the subject. Talk to a Boston Medical Group physician about the available treatment options and what might be appropriate for you.