How long should sex last? Is there a secret number or time frame?
According to popular beliefs, sex is supposed to last about half an hour or more, however, many men are self-conscious about finishing too soon. Media influences like Hollywood movies, magazines, and porn have led to the belief that women enjoy (or require) extended sex sessions.
The reality is that the average man lasts about two minutes or less. This might not sound like a very long time but most women don’t seem to have any complaints as long as they can get off as well. The problem with a short sex time frame lies entirely with men and their desire to last longer. Some men rely on sexual medicine to last longer in bed, but there are other ways for you to enjoy sex with your partner.
If you’d like to last longer in bed and have a satisfying sex life, check out our tips and tricks.
Kegel exercises: Pelvic floor exercises have been shown to improve ejaculation five-fold during sexual intercourse. To perform these exercises, locate and isolate the pelvic floor muscles you use to control your urine flow. Then squeeze and release these muscles rhythmically. Build the amount you can do each time, and vary the rhythm and pattern. After doing pelvic floor exercises for a while, you will notice that you have more control over your sexual response as well as your bladder.
Change how you think about sex: Most men and women think of sex as a means to an end – getting an orgasm and that’s it. Yet, it doesn’t have to be. Sex is more than just an orgasm – it’s a sensory experience and it’s also about connection, intimacy, pleasure, and passion. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to last an x amount in bed. Instead, think about her, how she’s feeling, and how you’re feeling. Even if you reach orgasm, it doesn’t mean that the whole experience is over. You can continue with passion and try to get there again. You can try exploring oral sex and then penetrative sex as well as other sex positions to enjoy sexual pleasure.
Be healthy: A good erection is the result of healthy blood flow, so make sure you keep your circulation flowing. Get active, hit the gym, and stay away from cigarettes to treat premature ejaculation. Eat a healthy diet and don’t abuse alcohol so that you don’t experience premature ejaculation.
Masturbate more often: You can teach yourself to last longer by masturbating more often and getting more in touch with your sexual responses. As you start to stimulate yourself, stop before you reach the point of no return (an orgasm). Give yourself time to calm down, then begin stimulating yourself back up again and stopping before release to delay ejaculation. Do this a couple of times until you gain more control over your sexual release and you learn what your point of return is.
If you need more help, you can seek advice from a professional sex therapist to talk about your sexual performance and sexual abuse.