I never really knew that I had a problem and I am still not sure if I do he explained. I’ve had only one girlfriend before now – Janet—and she never complained. I was her first partner, and we would make love once or twice a week purely by my initiation. In fact, this was the reason we broke up.
Shortly after, I met Donna, who I am with now. The first time we made love I was nervous and it was all over very quickly. She was very understanding and although a little disappointed, she gave me the impression that we just needed to get used to each other. Unfortunately, this happened consistently over the next few weeks, and I could sense her frustration.
We spoke about the problem, and I told her that I had never been able to go for more than five minutes. We did not call it premature ejaculation, but looking back I guess there was no other word for it. I simply could not control my ejaculation, and although some love-making sessions lasted longer than others, the problem has been with me from the first time that I made love.
Donna was very open-minded, and we tried to treat the problem using various products that we bought from sex shops and on-line. We tried sprays and numbing creams, rubber rings and even a few techniques that Donna had read about. Although all of these seemed to initially help, I never was able to gain control, and I sensed that Donna was starting to lose patience with me.
I have no trouble getting an erection but I feared the PE problem could affect my relationship. I really wish I could enjoy love making a little more, and, more importantly, I really like Donna and I want this relationship to work.